By Kaytie Mero, M.A. and Dr. Katrina Kuzyszyn-Jones
Reunification therapy is designed to repair parent-child relationships and help children have healthy relationships with both parents. Reunification therapy is often court-ordered due to the child refusing to spend time with one parent. Such refusal tends to occur after the parents have separated or divorced, resulting in a favored parent and a rejected parent. This means that the child has formed an alliance with one parent and has excluded the other. Therefore, the goal of reunification therapy is for the therapist to help reunify the child and rejected parent, to help transform the polarized good and bad beliefs and attitudes of family members, and help the parents implement appropriate parenting and co-parenting roles in order to support the child’s overall development. Intervention is not only tailored to the individual family but is highly structured and supportive. New skills, such as co-parenting and parallel parenting, are introduced and practiced within a safe and secure setting. Reunification therapy focuses on solutions rather than past problems and helps the family move forward in a new chapter.
Reunification therapy is often ordered in situations where allegations of abuse are inconclusive. While there are no standards for how to conduct the actual therapy, there are guidelines regarding the best practices for the structure of reunification therapy. As the keystone of the intervention, the court order should specify: (1) the goals for the intervention, (2) the court’s expectation that all family members shall participate and cooperate, (3) the necessary structure for the implementation of the intervention, and (4) the court’s role in monitoring the family’s progress, thereby creating and insuring accountability of each family member to work towards these goals. In addition, the court, not the therapist, needs to determine the final goal for reunification. Often, reunification counselors are ordered to begin counseling, and they are told to initiate a stair step visitation schedule. However, the schedule is not clearly defined or a long term goal is not established, and the counselors cannot make parenting plan recommendations or rulings per the current standard of practice, so they need the court’s guidance in order to proceed ethically.
It is particularly important that there is agreement upon the major goal of the intervention, that is, the family work be directed to restoring family functioning so the child can attain and maintain the best possible relationship with both parents, and that this statement be put into the court order. The parents must sign the therapist’s treatment agreement, which reiterates the court’s statements about treatment goals, providing yet another chance for them to affirm their understanding, acceptance, and willingness to work toward these goals. The court order should include details such as the dates when the court will be reviewing the progress of the family within the intervention, a provision that neither parent has the power to unilaterally terminate treatment, as well as a statement that there will be consequences and sanctions, financial or related to the parent’s time with the child—for a parent’s failure to meet the court’s expectations.
In order to facilitate this process, KKJ uses a team approach. Dr. KKJ is the lead for the treatment team as the reunification therapist; Ms. Mero is the child therapist lead. Our other therapists, can then work with the ‘favored’ or ‘rejected’ parent. Research supports that the most important person in the process is the ‘favored’ parent; they must buy into the process in order for it to be successful. This is why KKJ takes this approach to reunification therapy.
Want more information? Please contact drkatrina@kkjpsych.com or kaytie@kkjpsych.com or call 919-493-1975.